None of us get married thinking that someday it will end in divorce. Often times we think of ourselves as the exception rather than the rule, “it will never happen to me.” Yet it does happen and some would say that the divorce rate is out of control – you tell me… would you consider a 50 percent divorce rate acceptable?
It is evident that current society lacks the tools and understanding of what it takes to make a marriage work. Even worse is the fact that our children are suffering for the choices we have made and the things we have done. After divorce it is critical for parents to be able to put their differences aside and place their children in a position of priority.
Statistics show kids of divorce will have challenges throughout life but it can be helped, if not avoided, if both parents take an active role in their child’s life. Working together right out of the gate may be difficult and it may take some time, however, you may find that given the right attitude and motivation you and your ex may develop a better relationship than what you previously had.
Depending on your child’s age, needs, and the parent that primarily took care of the child before the divorce it is important to set up a parenting plan that best suits the needs of the child. You want your child to feel at home when at both places, not like they are visiting.
You may be angry, hurt, and bitter after divorce and you may be tempted to say hurtful things to your ex in front of your child or share with them the pain that has been caused but remember all this really accomplishes is hurting the child. It is far more important to treat one another, as well as your child, with respect and kindness.
Life is full or challenges and this is going to be one of them. Your child will benefit greatly if both parents are able to put their differences aside and participate in their child’s life. If your child wins then you win and just maybe they will avoid some of the mistakes you made.