We’ve all been there. Those dates that seem so promising and then suddenly you realize that you’re not going to get a second one. It’s tough enough even setting up the first date to begin with. You don’t want all that effort wasted because you tried too hard or said the wrong thing.
The problem is that it’s so hard to figure out where you went wrong. Was it the clothes? Too much cologne? Too many questions? There are a ton of ways to screw up a first date. Believe me – I’m guilty of making just about every first date mistake there is to make. And that’s why I want to share with you the things I’ve learned.
The best thing you can do to help your first date go smoothly is just to relax. Of course you’re both nervous, but is she showing it? Right, then neither should you. It’s totally natural to get excited about a first date, and to be nervous for sure. But if that’s all that you show, you’re not going to be giving her any way to get to know you.
But Not Too Cool
You do want to seem interested in your date, though. Staying cool doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seem to be engaged in the conversation. Make eye contact and ask polite and appropriate questions. In short – act like a man because that’s what she wants you to be.
Stay in the Present
One really easy way to scare a woman off is by getting ahead of yourself and hinting at marriage or kids. No good will ever come of talking about these subjects on the first date, so steer clear. Similarly, you don’t want to seem too caught up in the past either. A quick anecdote from high school or college is fine here and there.
But if that’s all you’re finding to contribute to the conversation, you’ll be giving the distinct impression that you’re only interested in reliving those glory days. In short, you’ll look like you never grew up and have no life, and it’s not too hard to see why that’s a huge turn off.
Go Someplace Cozy
You don’t have to be too over the top romantic, but your first date should definitely be in a place where you can talk. Stay away from noisy restaurants with lots of distractions. Nothing will make your first date turn awkward in a hurry like not being able to talk to each other because of noise. It can be hard enough to keep the conversation moving along without having to overcome your environment too.